Prenatal and postpartum women who battle with depression, anxiety or obsessive thinking are also battling the myths our society has created around having babies. Many women expect to bond immediately with their babies, love everything about being pregnant and/or a new mom, and feel blissful every moment of their day.

The reality is, sometimes being a mom is exhausting.

Some pregnant women have deep fears about becoming mothers. Some women have great stressors in their lives while they are pregnant that overshadow the ideas of the life growing inside them.

Some babies have very high needs. Some have complications during birth that create stress and fear. Some moms have a long recovery period from the birth experience. Sometimes breastfeeding is very hard or doesn't work at all. Sometimes moms expect that because they waited so long and worked so hard to have a baby, (whether the pregnancy came easy or was a result of many years of fertility work,) that they should be happier than they are.

Sometimes, babies are just a lot of work.

About 10% of pregnant women experience depression or a related mood disorder. Prenatal mood disorders are jsut as distrubing for the women as postpartum mood disorders, though they are often passed off as normal side effects of pregnancy hormones.

Over 15% of mothers of newborns are afflicted with depression, obsessive thoughts, and/or anxiety. Another one or two in a thousand suffer from postpartum psychosis. These are NOT signs of bad or ill-prepared mothers. PPMDs come from hormonal changes, genetic predispositions and can be exacerbated by life stressors.

The first step in coming to peace with depression, anxiety, or disturbing obsessive thinking is to acknowledge how you are feeling.

The next step is to reach out for help.

Here are some symptoms to be aware of. Remember that as human beings, we are complex. Therefore, it is not uncommon to experience symptoms in several different areas.

Post Partum Blues-"Baby Blues"
Onset: within the first week after birth
Occurrence rate: 80% of new mothers
Duration: from several days up to six weeks

Symptoms
Mood instability
Weepiness
Sadness
Anxiety
Lack of concentration
Feelings of dependency

Causes
Rapid hormonal changes
Physical and emotional stress of birthing
Physical discomforts
Emotional letdown after pregnancy and birth
Awareness and anxiety about increased responsibility
Fatigue and sleep deprivation
Disappointments including the birth, spousal support, nursing, and the baby

Postpartum Depression and/or Anxiety
Onset: Usually gradual but it can be rapid and occur any time in the first year
Occurrence rate: 15-20% of mothers

Symptoms
Excessive worry or anxiety
Irritability or short temper
Feeling overwhelmed, difficulty making decisions
Sad mood, feelings of guilt, phobias
Hopelessness
Sleep problems (often woman cannot sleep or sleeps too much)
Physical symptoms or complaints in excess of, or without physical cause
Discomfort around the baby or a lack of feeling towards the baby
Loss of focus and concentration (may miss appointments, for example)
Loss of interest or pleasure, decreased libido
Changes in appetite; significant weight gain or loss

Risk Factors
50-80% risk if previous postpartum depression
Depression or anxiety during pregnancy
Personal or family history of depression
Abrupt weaning
Social isolation or poor support
History of premenstrual syndrome (PMS) or premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD)
Mood changes while taking birth control pill or fertility medication, such as Clomid
Thyroid dysfunction

Postpartum Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Onset: Usually gradual but it can be rapid and occur any time in the first year
Occurrence rate: 3-5% of new mothers

Symptoms
Intrusive, repetitive and persistent thoughts or mental pictures
Thoughts often are about hurting or killing the baby
May include counting, checking, or other repetitive behaviors
Tremendous sense of horror and disgust about these thoughts

Risk Factors
Personal or family history of OCD

Postpartum Panic Disorder
Occurs in about 10% of postpartum women

Symptoms:
Episodes of extreme anxiety
Shortness of breath, chest pain, sensations of choking or smothering, dizziness
Hot or cold flashes, trembling, palpitations, numbness or tingling sensations
Possible restlessness, agitation or irritability
During attack, the woman may fear she is going crazy, dying or losing control
Panic attack may wake her up
Often no identifiable trigger for panic
Excessive worry or fears (may center around fear of more panic attacks)

Risk factors
Previous history of anxiety or panic disorder
Thyroid dysfunction

Postpartum Psychosis
Onset: about 3 days postpartum
Occurrence rate: 1-3 per thousand new mothers

Symptoms
Visual or auditory hallucinations
Delusional thinking (for example, about infant death, denial or birth or need to kill baby)
Delirium and/or mania

Risk Factors
Personal or family history of psychosis, bipolar disorder or schizophrenia
Previous postpartum psychotic or bipolar episode

Postpartum Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Symptoms
Recurrent nightmares
Extreme anxiety
Reliving past traumatic events (events may be sexual, physical, emotion or related to childbirth)

Risk Factors
Past traumatic events

Excerpt from: Bennett, S., Indman, P., Beyond the Blues: Prenatal & Postpartum Depression, A Treatment Manual, Moodswings Press, San Jose, 2002, pp. 22-26.

Pre-Natal Mood Disorders
If you are pregnant and experiencing symptoms of depression, anxiety or obsessive thinking, you may have a prenatal mood disorder. Treatment is essential to return to feeling like yourself again. Untreated depression can result in low birth weight, preterm delivery and occasionally suicide in the mother.

If you are pregnant and think you may be at risk for a PPMD, talk to your midwife or obstetrician and ask her to screen you. If you are prepared for the possibility of experiencing depression after your baby comes, you will have the ability to overcome it quickly or even avoid it all together if you surround yourself with resources.

What to do:

If you are experiencing any of the symptoms listed above, it is time to seek professional help. Women who are treated for postpartum mood disorders have a remarkably high recovery rate. They are able to bond with their babies, feel good about their roles as mothers and lead very productive and satisfying lives. Women who do not seek treatment for these disorders are at risk not only for continuing to feel the way they do, but also for impeding their baby's emotional, cognitive and physical development.

Treatment may include any or all of the following depending on the needs of each individual woman:

Individual counseling
Support groups
Medication
Support from family and friends
Exercise
Nutritional eating
Good sleep habits
Time to yourself
A variety of other healing modes including acupuncture, massage, yoga, etc.

To discuss mood disorders further contact me at 303-916-6929 or email me to setup an appointment.